My beloved sister called me yesterday, and unfortunately I had to end our conversation short as we were on our way to a play date. She then proceeded to question with humour, "why does a 4 year old have more dates than I do?" It made me wonder...is there a correlation between dating and play dating? What must one do to have a successful dating strategy- whether it be play dates, or your conventional date. Here are my thoughts...
1) First Impressions: Stats show that we form judgments in the time it takes to "Blink" your eye-so make it count !!! (Malcolm Gladwell)
singles: Go out and buy a new outfit. If you are fashionably challenged-ask the experts! Hit some of my favourites. Holt Renfrew, Anthropologie, or Purr in Calgary.
toddlers: You guys have it easy...don't show up with breakfast on your shirt, or a dirty diaper.
2) Share: For those of you who need a reminder I've included the definition: To participate in, use, enjoy or experience jointly in turns.
singles: Don't talk about yourself the whole night. Ask questions about the other person.
toddlers: Don't grab, push or shove if you want something. For the love of God- we have six other dolls that look exactly the same. Why must you play with that one?
3) It's a numbers game so play!
singles: Dating is about sales and sales is a numbers game. Multiply your dating success. The more people you meet, the greater your chances of meeting someone who is good for you.
toddlers: Learn to count...ok well at least to 3 because that's when time out begins.
4) Social Networking. Like it or not, technology is as much a part of our daily lives as brushing our teeth. Embrace the change and get on these social websites.
singles: Lava Life, Match.com, or eHarmony just to name a few.
toddlers: I researched and yes - there is an official website devoted to play dates! Check it out at Playdates for Kids Meetup Group.
5) Don't be Late for the Date!
singles: It's just rude. If you have to change your plans give as much notice as possible and please apologize.
toddlers: Don't worry- your Mom is in trouble for this one. Let her handle it!
Lastly, I asked Simon (my 4 year old son) his thoughts on play dates and he simply stated: "just go and have fun".